On Becoming an Adult

This past December was a banner month for me I guess. On the 22nd we confirmed that my wife Melanie was, in fact, pregnant with our first child. The next day, I turned 30. It was almost as if I went from twenty something pseudo-adult to actual adult in 24 hours. I have no intention of taking myself TOO seriously, but have finally realized something important about life in general.

The best way to fail at achieving the goals you have set for yourself is to rationalize why you might fail before you even begin trying to accomplish the goal.

I know this might be bordering on those blue sky, green field motivational posters, but I have been forgiving myself for failing before I even try to reach the end point for my entire life.  I have always felt like this was the right way to live. Like it was a reasonable and rational way to look at challenges since, lets be honest, more goals are not met than met in this world. By doing this I have been letting myself off the hook, for pretty much everything. That’s a good way to live an unfulfilling, mediocre life.

This has surfaced for me because I am very much in favor of having AT LEAST one parent at home when children come into the picture. I don’t think it’s MANDATORY, but I believe that it’s important to be a home based family. Especially in the first 3-5 years.

So that’s my aim, to figure out a way to provide enough for my growing family that we only need the income that I make. So far things look possible. There is still a long road ahead to reaching this goal, but I believe it can be done by August of 2009, which is ETA for the arrival the newest member of our family.

As of right now, I have not made any mental excuses why this won’t happen and I don’t intend to. If I fail, I fail, but it won’t be because I reasoned out forgiveness for myself along the way.

2 Comments on “On Becoming an Adult

  1. Go Kamen! Noble goal. seriously. I may not feel you about forgiving yourself for failing before you even proceed; I have other issues myself.

    We did that when we had 1 (then 2) child for several years, even when we made significantly less in income. Funny how sometimes it may all work out even when it makes little sense. I recall a friend of mine about to have their 1st child wonder how we budgeted… which we didn’t.

    August is a good month to be born; I was born just about right in the middle => 16th 🙂

    chriss last blog post..bottles